LEMONY SNIPPETS

THE SWEET, SOUR AND BITTER TASTES OF LIFE

Friday, May 29, 2009

Hi Dad, Wishing You Many Many Happy Returns of the Day :)

It's been a long time since I wrote to you. Thought I should give you an update about myself, Amma and things in general. Amma and I are fine, missing you though. Amma keeps shuttling between Mumbai and Bengaluru. She gets bored in Mumbai since I'm not around, and bored in Bangalore since I'm still not around... you see, I spend the whole day (and sometimes the night too) in the lab! I feel bad, but what can I do? I need to get a PhD, right? I've promised Amma that I won't work on Sundays when she's in Bangalore and spend time with her. Sadly, I've yet to keep that promise. Amma's very understanding about the whole thing, but I do feel guilty at taking her for granted each time like this :(

About my PhD... well, it's moving on, at a snail's pace though. Thought I'd hit upon something at long last, but then things stopped working. I've been trying different experiments, different ways to prove my hypothesis, but it remains elusive. I just hope and pray that no one catches up upon the same idea before I publish my results! I'm sure thousands of other grad students are praying for the same!

Aani kalle naa. I visit the Math whenever possible. Amma attends the Sanskrit Sambhashan class regularly and took part in the Sanskrit program when HH was here for Yugadi. She was a superhit! Her Prahelika and Family introduction got a thunderous applause from not only the audience present but from HH himself :) I've put up the photos in my Picasa album. You can have a look there.

Hope you are doing fine up there. How do you spend your time? I'm the proud keeper of your entire Wodehouse collection. Reading them reminds me of you and the laughs we shared together, and I know that even today you share the jokes with me; that I never laugh alone. I just wish that you were here all hale and hearty, so Amma, you and I could share those wonderful times again.

That's all for now. Please pray that I finish my PhD soon and get more time to spend with Amma. There are other matters to be attended too, other than the PhD, right? You are also looking into them I hope ;)

Lotsa love.

Yours,

Tee.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

BEING IN TWENTIES - SOMETHING... :)

Nice e-mail fwd from PS. Thanks PS :)

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. You want to settle down for good because now all of a sudden that becomes top priority. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You begin to think a companion for life is better than a hundred in the shack and for once you would not mind standing tall for that special someone which otherwise you had never thought of until now. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends.... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis"

Saturday, February 28, 2009

3 Idiots… and a 4th!

“What did you say? You are coming to Bangalore! That’s great news! When, where, how? When can we meet?” I couldn’t contain my joy! I’ll be coming down with my ‘play group’ people” Maggu replied back. I giggled. I was all for Maggu’s witty one-liners! “We’re staging the play version of ‘Five Point Someone’ at Rangashankara. I would like it very much if you could make it there.” “But of course, Maggu! I will be there. And I promise to bring my IISc gang along. How do I get the tickets for the show?” And Maggu being the wonderful friend he is, immediately blocked 8 tickets for us. That was how we all ended up watching an amazing theatre performance at Bangalore’s famous Rangashankara auditorium. We all had a fantastic time, start to end, and a little before the start too, I might add. Here’s the entire story…

It did not take any convincing on my part to get my IISc friends to come along. Half of us were from IIT’s as it were, and the rest were all great fans of Chetan Bhagat’s first attempt as a writer. How we all related to the story of the three friends! Didn’t we suffer similar pain and anguish at IISc too, broken hearts, fallen grades, fire-breathing professors and an occasional spark of genius now and then!

The boys decided to start early and visit Forum Mall for some bird watching J Paro and I gladly rejected their offer to tag along and left directly for Rangashankara. We had no clue as to the whereabouts of the auditorium, but a Google search located it to be somewhere in Jayanagar. So away we went on a delightful bus ride on a wonderful Sunday evening with a cool breeze blowing through our hair (and me getting all upset that I would look like a scarecrow by the end of the ride and scare poor Maggu away!)

We got down at the Jayanagar bus stop and looked around. We saw (in the order): 1. An empty ground with a huge building at its far end, 2. Two florist shops, 3. A toy shop and 4. A huge hospital on the opposite side of the road. But contrary to what we had been told, Rangashankar, we did not see. We did the most sensible thing to do under such circumstances: we asked for directions. I pretended to select a bouquet of flowers for Maggu while Paro did the talking. But the florists were of no help and so Maggu’s bouquet remained with them (Sorry friend!). We tried the toy store next. The owner spoke nothing but Kannada and we knew nothing of Kannada, so it was a vain attempt yet again. However, a young couple with a cute little kid told us we just had to walk straight down and take a right. Rangashankara would be a 20 minute walk from where we were. We thanked the couple and moved on as directed. How could we have forgotten the basic rules of Bangalore: Never to trust directions given by strangers! Bangaloreans, inspired by an extreme urge to help those in need, freely give directions, even wrong ones, if need be! Walking a good 30 minutes still didn’t get us anywhere close to our destination. We decided to trace back our steps. As we rounded the corner near the traffic signal, my eyes lit up.

“Paro, dekh! Young people wearing Evam t-shirts!” Evam alongwith the Madras Players theatre group were organizing the show. “Let’s follow them. They must be heading towards Rangashankara” And so we stalked the Evam-ites right up the street, rounded the corner, and followed them through the gates into… their Hostel Complex!

“Eh, er… excuse me. But this doesn’t look like Rangashankara?” “Oh, so that’s why you’ve been following us all this while, is it? You kept us guessing” a smart young man grinned at me.
“Oh, ah…well yes. We actually lost our way, and saw you wearing Evam t-shirts and decided to follow you and…” I blurted out. “Oh, don’t worry about it”a pretty young girl smiled graciously. “Just follow the same route back, cross over at the signal and Rangashankara’s right next to the huge empty ground that you will see, 5 minutes from the Jayanagar bus stop”

“Thanks so much” I gulped, turning a beetroot red, Paro giggling away to glory at my side.

Aaaaarrrrrrrrrggggggghhhhhhhh!!! I had to mess it up, didn't I? That too with so many handsome young men around! Aaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhh!!! Paro thankfully promised that the boys won’t know anything of this business of ours, and am I glad that she’s kept the promise still! Thanks Paro :)

After our little adventure we managed to reach Rangashankara without further humiliation and joined the boys who were into their second round of their ‘eye-warming session’. Uff! Boys will be boys!

We collected our tickets and soon as the doors were thrown open, rushed into the auditorium to get hold of the best seats. We managed to bag seats in the second row quite close to the stage and waited with bated breath for a house-full show of ‘Five Point Someone’ to begin.

At 6 pm on the dot, the doors closed, the lights dimmed and the auditorium was enveloped in complete darkness. The stage lights slowly came on and focussed on the three friends Hari Kumar, Alok Gupta and Ryan Oberoi, sitting in a triangle on the Insti roof, discussing the failed Operation Pendulum and the DisCo that succeeded it. Then, Alok got up, moved slowly towards the edge, stood undecided for a while, and then jumped! Jumped down the nine stories of the Insti building!

The story then leapt into flashback and recounted how the three friends had met, their vain attempts at studying to get above their five point something GPAs, the fun they had, hot paranthas at Sasi’s, Hari and Neha’s romance, Alok’s cribbing about his family and his sister’s marriage, Ryan’s fantastic ideas, the handsome Prof. Veera (sigh! Why couldn’t IISc have profs like him!), the super strict Prof. Cherian (an even bigger sigh! All profs at IISc are SO like him!), the DisCo… and back to the present. And not once did the audience bat an eyelid. It took in all that the actors had to offer. There was no doubt then, at the end of the play, after a minute of pin-drop silence needed to come back to reality, all the artistes received a thunderous applause and a standing ovation :)

A special thank you note to Nikhila Kesavan and her team for an excellent adaptation and direction of Bhagat’s book. It did complete justice to it. Thanks also to Evam and the Madras Players group for putting up such a wonderful show and entertaining us thoroughly. Special thanks from Paro and me to all those lovely people at Evam, for correctly directing us to Rangashankara…we would’ve missed the show otherwise! And of course, thanks to dear Maggu for the advanced intimation so I could make it to the show without upsetting any experiments and the Boss, for the tickets, for answering my phone call 5 minutes before showtime, for doing justice to Hari's character, and, for being such a wonderful wonderful friend. Am proud of you Buddy! :)

That’s my account of an evening well spent. To hear about the show from the horse’s mouth, do visit Maggu’s blog... http://kedar-mavinkurve.blogspot.com/search/label/Five%20Point%20Someone

Maggu thanks for inviting me to the show. I had a truly wonderful time and wish you all the very best for your future ‘playful’ endeavours (Am I allowed to call u a ‘Playboy’ by any chance? :p)

P.S: There is a time for everything. Work done at the right time bears good results. Procrastination leads to a dead-end. One might keep a promise, but what use, if one takes months to keep it? Especially if doing the job immediately would have put a big smile on a dear friend’s face.

Maggu, I try and make amends here, but am aware that they might not be enough. I won’t give any excuse this time. I just want to say that I’m really sorry for being such an idiot and keeping you waiting so long. Hope you like whatever I’ve written. ~ MM